NVC Premises

Here is one of the lists that I'm going to be talking about. Found it here.

5 Premises from ‘The Compassionate Classroom’ by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson

• Premise 1: We are all natural givers.
• We each have a lot to give. We each enjoy giving.

• Premise 2: We can give and receive to meet the most needs for everyone.
• Needs are universal and identifiable.
• Our needs are independent of specific people.
• We are always trying to meet our needs.
• Feelings are helpful messengers of met and unmet needs.
• Identifying our needs is empowering.

• Premise 3: To meet our needs we become more choiceful about how we think, listen, talk and act.
• We are agents of choice.
• There are many ways to meet needs.
• We can choose how we act.
• We can choose how we think.
• We can choose how we listen.
• We can choose how we talk.

• Premise 4: We can continually learn new ways to meet needs.
• We can refine strategies to meet needs.
• We can celebrate when strategies work.
• We can learn from strategies that don’t work.
• People (including children) will have the energy and the clarity to find their own solutions and resolutions, once they have had empathy for their feelings and needs.

• Premise 5: By focusing on needs we can prevent, reduce, and resolve conflicts.
• Needs are never in conflict.
• Conflicts occur when a strategy chosen to meet a need means that some other important needs will not get met.
• For the most fun, we can find ways to meet everyone’s needs.